Liar Liar Pants on Fire

Lying sucks. Right now I'm in the midst of a bunch of drama, that just got exponentially worse, because someone decided to lie about it.  This is the kind of lie that's doing damage to a mother daughter relationship. Really folks? I mean...REALLY? Do people just not care what kind of hurt their lies can cause? Do you people THINK before you lie?

Think about this for a minute. It doesn't seem to matter what the lie, there are always repercussions. The level of fallout depends on the size of the lie, of course, or the current emotional state of the relationship between the people involved. Even the little lies we tell our children when they are young can bite us in the ass. It takes years for the kid to forgive you when they find out Santa and the Easter Bunny aren't real. You'll never forget the look of disbelief on their little faces, then the hurt that you lied to them for so many years. Never.

And what about the little white lie told between partners? No matter what it's for, no matter where your heart was when you told that little white lie, even if it was to protect them, it hurts that you didn't trust them enough to handle the truth. Are you aware of the things that go through their minds. Like wondering if you've lied about anything else, since you're obviously capable. It doesn't matter if your heart was in the right place. The truth is always better. Lies bury trust. They destroy it. Completely. 

Now we come to the big ones. The lies that are so bad that they can tear a person apart, ruin a marriage, a parent child relationship, a friendship, etc. All I can say to that is, WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU PEOPLE THINKING? ARE you people thinking? Somewhere, deep down inside, you have to know that what you're doing is wrong! There has to be some kind of conscience in there, telling you that you will be busted, and when you are the lie will only make things worse. But in the mean time, people are being hurt. Seriously hurt. The kind of hurt that isn't easily fixed. Sometimes it takes decades for the truth to come out. Were you trying to protect yourself? Were you trying to make yourself look better? Were you afraid of what the truth would do to you? Does it freaking matter?

Don't think I've never told a lie. I have. And I've regretted it. Somewhere along the lines, I learned that the truth is a better option. Even if it hurts. When someone comes to me for advice, I won't sugar coat things to make them happy. That won't help anyone. Even if it gauls them to hear it, they're going to get the truth. The plain, simple, painful truth.

Too bad more people can't realize the kind of pain a lie can cause.